When your therapist becomes more like your friend?
Ok. I need advice from my readers. I am very confused. Here is why.
I saw a therapist for four and a half years. During that time an awful lot of things occurred. In the first year, we were raped, she came to the sexual assault and trauma unit with us when we were being tested for STD’s, we were put in patient a number of times, each time she would come to see us while we were in there, there was cutting in session, there was an incident where a little insider tried to climb out of her window of her office, so yeah a lot of stuff. She was really helpful and didnt freak on us and she was really good to come see us in the hospital and take us to the trauma unit. O yeah and, she also went to the police with us when cult people were all over us trying to get us to go back, and one night we were attacked walking home from the local library and she went with us to report that incident, on a Friday evening, when she should have been with her family.
So why am I confused? Dont get me wrong, I am grateful to her. I am sorry the theraputic relationship went so wrong. I miss her.
But here is the thing. Some of the things she did, well, I can see now they werent really ethical. For instance if we came and were doing badly, she would offer to take us out for coffee or food, and we did do this on numerous occasions. She also took us for rides in her soft top car, and to the movies amongst other things. She bought our littles toys, she took us out on our birthday, she let us meet three of her kids.
She would answwer emails between sessions, she would answer and let us text her, she always called us back too. Does this sound wrong? Has anyone got a therapist or had a therapist who did any of these things? If you dont would you allow them to do these things? Would it send up red flags?
She didnt harm us in any way, but I guess it kinda is harming us now. We are totally confused and something our new trauma therapist said stays with me. She said…
So you didnt know if you had a therapist or a friend?
And its true we didnt. We really didnt know. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
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